Why Women Don't Trust Men

A woman that does not trust her man. This is the biggest challenge men face in their intimate relationships. Often confused and worn down by this phenomenon, men most commonly move away from a woman that does not trust them. Their favourite escapes are the golf course, other chosen sporting activities or the pub. Anywhere to be with other men, often to consume alcohol so that they feel some relief from the pressure. Some men surprisingly move towards other women, this of course, is the very thing his woman fears.

So whose fault is it? Is it her for not trusting in the first place? Or his because he is not trustworthy? The truth is probably both and if I had to sway one side, I say it starts with the men. No! I hear the men shout, why my fault? Well here's the thing, if you don't want your woman 'playing up', nagging you all the time and driving you nuts, you need to understand what she needs! And that's not changing that light bulb that's been out for ages that she persistently goes on and on about...

You see, women have what we call 'core needs'. These are needs of the feminine part of her and incidentally nothing to do with what she is nagging you about. What all, and I mean all women are looking for, even if they say they are not, is a strong man! Yes innate to the human female is her inner unconscious need to feel safe and protected by a man. Now, originally, like many other animals on the planet this was definitely the job of the male. Interestingly as the human mind has evolved we seem to have forgotten this innate need, well at least logically. Feminism and equality, whilst seemingly a logical and intelligent way forward, has forgotten that underlying that left brain logic is a deep programmed yet forgotten human need. Yes, inside each and every female there is an ancient creature, whose needs must be catered for and if they're not, trouble abounds.

Look at it like this, the ancient part of a woman that needs to feel safe and protected, is looking to her man to perform this task. Now if the man shows up short on this, what she does most commonly is to 'protect herself'. Now there are many different styles that have evolved to achieve this 'self preservation', the most common, is to take charge herself, be the boss or the matriarch! And this will include telling her man what to do or at minimum making helpful suggestions. Other women will go more passive, consistently playing the guilt or victim card, "you never do anything for me" type stuff. The challenge is that these strategies have a very negative effect on men. Men in turn, depending on the man, will respond in different ways. Some will move away to escape, looking externally for his needs to be met, some may even get aggressive verbally or even physically. Others will go passive, more internal, shutting down and go for the easy, quiet life and accept her taking charge or telling him what to do.

The thing most women don't understand is that all men, and I mean all men, if they were to tell women the truth, absolutely hate a woman telling them what to do, yes, we hate it with a vengeance!

So what's to be done? Well if men are to go first, the missing ingredient is for a man to be certain in himself. A man that knows where he is going is fearless, on his purpose and strong; yet also caring, kind and loving to his woman. The truth is that men with these qualities are rare in today’s world hence women take charge because, in so many relationships, the women is more certain than her man. These reversed role relationships are all doomed to failure at some level. Most will end up in the divorce courts if they married, many will have infidelity and none will experience that deep sense of love and passion that we all desire to have in our lives, inside and outside of the bedroom.

As for women what can they do for their part? Well, they could learn new strategies that empower their man, strategies that include acknowledging his achievements, showing appreciation for what he does and communicating her positive feelings towards him. This may seem madness if he isn't showing up at present in a great way, but, magically, if women use these techniques men grow in stature, become more 'present' and are drawn to spend more intimate time.

If you have any difficulties, men or women, do ask us for help and we'll give you more details of our strategies and techniques. I know you will be truly amazed at the results.

Tony Vee

PS. Nicki and I teach singles and couples how to get it right. We teach men how to be real men and women how to be their real feminine self, not some archetype 'Barbie Doll' - a real woman. If you need help because you keep getting results less than you really desire feel free to contact us.


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