Relationship Advice : Should I Stay or Should I Go Now?

In the words of the song....Should I Stay Or Should I Go Now?

Here is a very common dilemma for both men and women...

The reason it is very common is that we (men and women) find it difficult to make this decision.

We have committed or semi committed to another person and now we are not sure. It isn't how it was in the beginning and now we are disconnected, not attracted to each other and often having disagreements.

So what do you do?

Well firstly you have to look at how you're behaviour has caused this relationship to deteriorate.
Then you have to stop finding the other person at fault. Then you have to speak your absolute truth.

This truth is not what you feel about him/her or what he/she has done that you can't tolerate.
It is what's been going on for you. What you have been thinking and how you have been behaving.

Because here's the truth, when we start to be disconnected from our partner and we stop being attracted to them we often start to behave differently in order to meet our own needs.

So if you are the person wanting to go you must look at what you have been doing that has caused this relationship to fail and for the intimacy to be lost.

If you are the person who is being 'left' you too must decide what you have done to drive your partner away.

The extra special magical thing that can happen when this level of truth is spoken is that the old connection can come back. It may not be enough to save the relationship but it will definitely make splitting up easier and who knows you might re-ignite the spark.

Also if you don't learn what has gone wrong in this relationship it is pretty odds on that you will repeat this unconscious behaviour and get the same result next time. Something to seriously think about...

For much, much more on this go to http://www.intimaterelationships.tv/ and join our Home Study Course. This month's video and exercises are all about this subject and how to make the decision should I stay or should I go now.

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