Relationship Advice: How Do I Know If He/She Is Right For Me?

How Do I Know If He/She Is Right For Me?

That's the question we get asked most often by Single Men & Women.

So here is the Top 3, short and best answers!

1. Firstly, stop judging people by their looks. The difficulty with just looking at whether this person is 'your type', fanciable or hot is that 'looks' alone will never tell you whether you are in the same energy, whether you are compatible, share the same values and outcomes in life and above all whether you are able to meet each others core and individual needs. So as Tony says, 'stop judging and get in the pool'.

2. Get in the pool - spend time with people that you are drawn to for other reasons than looks. This could be someone who is just in great energy, or someone who has a fabulous outlook on life or someone who shares the same interests as you. Getting in the pool will give you the opportunity to get to know a person and to get a very clear understanding as to whether you can get on really well, whether you have the same or similiar desires in life and whether you can both really be 'yourselves'. You see if you have a mask on, trying to be someone you're not, then you will be most likely have a relationship with his/her mask too.

3. Spend at least 20 times together before getting intimate! You may think this is a very old fashioned piece of advice BUT we have seen so many people get intimate before they really know each other and then they find it hard to continue the 'getting to know each other' process. Getting to know each other must incorporate spending time together in your natural environments, time with others around, maybe even in stressful situations. These times will give you an insight into who this person really is. Is he/she different with family or friends? Does he/she take great care of their home environment? How does he/she deal with unexpected stressful situations? We always say, see how he/she lives his/her life without you so that you can tell how easily and smoothly your lives could fit together. It is pretty impossible to be non - attached to whether this will happen or not if you have been intimate hence why we advise you to have time together without the hormones jumping around!

So that is our 1-2-3 of how to know if this is the right person for you.

Watch next week for more about when is the best time to sleep together...

Any questions? Email us on tnv@tonyandnickivee.com

Nicki Vee x