Sex Chat - # 2 - How to Spot a Nightmare Woman

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Over the next 3 Blogs (and on our next 3 TNTV's) we are going to give you the top 5 ways of spotting whether a woman is 'a nightmare' and then the top 5 ways of spotting whether a man is 'a real man' (a knight in shining armour)or a woman is 'a dream woman' (a princess). If you missed Sex Chat #1 - How to Spot a Plonker, go back to the blog, men and women are saying its incredible!

So today - the top 5 ways to spot whether a woman is 'a bit of a nightmare'.

Now before you start to panic, girls thinking, maybe I am one or men thinking, maybe I'm with one, let me explain that any behaviour is liable to be coming from habit or programming (what she's been taught) or fear and so can be changed at any time just by being aware of it.

1. A Nightmare normally has her own life completely sorted.

Girls, you are probably saying - what the hell is wrong with that? Well, here's the unspoken (up until now) truth! You see women want to feel safe BUT the problem is that women nowadays use all of their masculine energy to get so safe that it makes them unattractive to men. His unconscious is not drawn to look after you because you are doing it all for yourself. The next big problem with this is that this is very attractive to a wimp or a plonker. Think about it - are you available for a real man to sweep you off your feet or do you have a thousand golden handcuffs around you to make you feel safe?

Guys, if you spot a woman who is living like this (certainty freaks we call them)steer clear. If you are drawn to be with her because it would give you the kind of security you desire - that is crap! Stop that - get your own life together and then find a woman who is healthy and available for you to look after. Otherwise she will be 'like a mother to you' and she will try and control you and she will keep taking over - you don't want that do you? If you are with a woman who does this you need to step up and take charge.

2. A Nightmare woman is a victim.

Girls, if in your life you feel like nothing seems to go right for you, or if you are often ill or if your family and friends always need you and you fall out with people then you are running a victim pattern. Tell the truth do you talk to other women about your man and what he doesn't do or how you can't find a good man? If this is you, stop it! What we put out we get back. What we think and talk about will be our experience. Until you stop 'enjoying' the connection that having problems gives you you are never going to be happy or in a great relationship!

Guys, if you are dating a woman and she starts to tell you her problems, challenges, who she is upset with or how this happened to her - bad sign. This will be your life. Never try and sort out the problems for her or they will never end. And you will be giving her mixed messages. She will think that you want to 'sort out her messes for life!' If you are with a victim don't re enforce it. You have to be clear that these are not real problems and that everything will be fine. Tony always says if you are not being masculine she will keep testing you. Victim is all a test. Move towards her in a healthy way and she 'might' stop doing it. If she doesn't stop it you might want to follow through of what you've been secretly thinking about - are you willing to live your life like this?

3. A Nightmare worries, doubts, frets and is stressed.

Girls, notice this is the same wording as no 3. of how to spot a plonker. You see if you are stressed you will probably have attracted a man who is the same. So then the whole relationship becomes stressed. You are also probably doing what I mentioned in nos 1. and getting certainty for yourself. Now this is not healthy I feel good about myself certainty, this is unhealthy, fear based I must have the house paid for, I must have a cast iron pension and I must have a job/business/relationship that is guaranteed for life certainty! Now this doesn't mean you have to be penniless, destitute and needy (in fact that is very unattractive to a man too unless he is into rescuing/taking on women as a project) you just need to be healthily ok. Just easily and effortlessly living a great life, doing what you love, not attached to security or your relationship, no worry, doubt and stress - just you, happy and free of fear. Now thats what a real man is looking to be with.

Guys, if the women you are attracted to are stressed out and looking for masses of certainty - these woman are going to be a nightmare to live with. Her certainty needs will never be met and she will be always be trying to get security for you too.

If you are with a woman who is like this, you need to step up. You need to take charge and give her the kind of feelings of certainty that she has been trying to give to herself. One word of caution, if your woman has a 'very unhealthy' need for security (she needs massive amounts of money to feel safe or she needs you to tell her where you are at all times etc)don't give into that, you will be re-enforcing unhealthy behaviour. Just be really firm with her that she is safe with you and carry on living life in a way that meets your needs. Those needs must be healthy too don't forget - see how to spot a plonker to make sure!

4. A Nightmare acts passive aggressive.

Girls, you know if you are doing this. Do you try to make him feel guilty if he doesn't give you as much attention as you want? Do you 'look after him' but only so that he will do things for you? Do you manipulate his decisions by using 'false feminine' behaviour? This looks like 'poor me', I don't have my needs met, whiny kind of language - get the picture? The reason why we use the expression passive aggressive is because it has a soft passive look about it but it has aggression underneath. And the reason why this behaviour is so subtle and difficult to spot is because it looks a bit like 'archetype' femininity. Of course it isn't feminine at all its very dangerous behaviour because it may get you want you want but then you have control of your man and in worse cases a man who feels controlled will fight back. Hence the reason why many passive aggressives attract macho men. Get some help.

Guys, do you recognise any of this behaviour described above in your woman or the women you are attracted too? I have to tell you we have had many of these women at our retreat and they were all taught by mum most commonly to put on this behaviour to get a man. Here's the bad news - they are often the most attractive! The reason for this is that they overuse their sexuality/unhealthy femininity to attract and 'snare a man' and then use their sexuality to keep him and its usually all one way traffic. If you are with a woman like this and you are letting her control you this way you won't be feeling like a man and you may be getting your masculine needs met elsewhere - yes? So if not giving into her doesn't work - get out!

5. A Nightmare is a drama queen

Girls, tell yourself the truth, are you addicted to drama? do you constantly talk about all the dreadful things that happened to you as a child? do you believe you were somehow abused? does life always deal you some mammoth issue to deal with? are all your converstions with your girlfriends about the latest thing that he did that you reacted badly to? if so you are a drama queen honey bunch! Now there is one sure fire way to stop this now and its easy - stop living in the past and don't make something worse than it is. I promise you that if you do this you will attract less drama into your life and your relationships will become less volatile.This could be hard at first because some women are addicted to drama and life may seem dull in comparison. Hang in there, its much healthier and will bring long term happiness.

Guys, easy to spot, difficult not to get into a relationship with! Why? because these women are normally feisty, fun and seemingly happy. But the truth is there will always be something not quite right, something needing to be got over and always it will be at the centre of life. A bit like the victim pattern this woman may have accidents, illnesses, problems with the kids, fall outs with people and normally big parent issue stuff. If you are with a woman like this you are going to need to be like a rock, immovable, unflappable, centered, stoic and strong. All the qualities you need to handle any woman but you may need to turn the dial right up for drama queens!

So there we have it, Sex Chat - #2 - How to Spot a Nightmare Woman.

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