Get It Together Before You Go To Bed

So how do you, 'Get It Together Before You Go To Bed?'

And, maybe more importantly, what are the consequences if you don't?

Well firstly, to get it together, you both need to find ways to get really connected to each other intimately before you go to bed because the consequences of not doing so could significantly and detrimentally affect your sex life and ultimately it could ruin your whole relationship!

And why do we say that this is the most important thing to get right for all couples?

Well, it's because if you are not connected intimately before you have sex you are likely to be having an individual experience instead of a shared one!

The 4 things that go wrong are:-

• You are both completely focused on other things such as work, the kids, television, the computer etc etc
• You are either thinking I want to have sex to relieve some tension or you are thinking I don't want sex at all
• The woman decides when, where, and how you have intercourse
• There is no preparation of the bedroom, it is a mess or clinically tidy!

NONE OF THESE WILL GIVE YOU A FABULOUS INTIMATE EXPERIENCE!

Which of them do you know you do?

And what's the alternative?

The 4 things that will create intimacy and beautiful love making:-

• Here's the thing - Intimacy and passion happens ONLY when the man takes the lead so he needs to make sure that time is created for 'getting it together!'
• During that time do your utmost NOT to talk about work, the kids, problems etc
• Do whatever you need to do to get yourself in a more relaxed state so that you are not stressed or frustrated when you move towards your partner
• Men to prepare the bedroom so that it feels like the kind of atmosphere that a woman could relax in. Women to prepare yourself so that you are open to being loved

So there it is, the simple philosophy that will give you a very different experience both inside and outside of the bedroom!

Nicki Vee x

For more on Love, Sex & Intimacy go to http://www.intimaterelationships.tv/