Who Should Take The Lead In The Bedroom?

Who Should Take The Lead In The Bedroom?

There is only one answer - THE MAN!

Why is that?

Well, we have a saying, 'whatever happens outside of the bedroom will happen inside the bedroom'

If the man is not running his life the way that he wants, if he is feeling controlled by his woman, he is likely to do one of 2 things:

1. Give into her way of doing things, fit in with her timings, do as he's told and feel an underlying resentment towards her which can result in lack of intimacy or
2. Live a life that meets his needs outside of the relationship ( even if thats just in his mind) and maybe just return for sex

You see a man needs to feel in charge of his life and his woman. This, of course, needs to be a healthy, loving man who wishes to meet his womans needs as well as his own. If in doubt read all our blogs on what women want!

So if he's in charge and decides for both of them about life and intimacy they will have a better connection and therefore more fulfilling love making.

So, the woman has a role to play too. We are not suggesting that if a man is 'behaving badly' that you should put up with it or give into inconsiderate demands for sex. What we are saying is to look honestly as to whether you are in charge in this relationship or not.

If you know you are, trust me, you will never have the kind of intimacy you desire with any man.

All men react badly to 'a woman in charge'

So girls, you need to trust him and let go. Do read the other blogs on what men want.

So now we understand who needs to be in charge here, most men ask for the 'paint by numbers'!

So here is the bottom line:

MEN need to make time for 'intimate time'. This is outside (before lovemaking) and inside the bedroom. He needs to be in a great space himself, not stressed and grumpy and dying for a release! He needs to understand that his woman needs time to get even more relaxed so that lovemaking is a beautiful experience. He needs to prepare the bedroom in a way that meets her needs. This may be candles, soft lighting etc and definitely tidy with no interruptions.

WOMEN need to get themselves in a space where they are ready and open to being loved. So maybe making sure the kids are settled, the house is calm, work is put away and you've had a long relaxing bath? Whatever works for you. And even if your man is still slightly stressed you could give him a non sexual massage (the intention is not to get him excited, this will only lead to a quick sexual release not true intimacy) or whatever else relaxes him

So once both of you are out of stress and talking intimately with each other, it might be the right time to go to the beautifully prepared bedroom for lovemaking...

So who makes that decison?

Yes HIM!

Love, enjoy each other....

Nicki Vee x

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