Relationship Advice: Money Problems = Sex Problems

Are you In Debt, on the brink of financial bankruptcy or just plain fed up with working to just make ends meet? Man or woman, this kind of pressure and stress is most definitely affecting your lovelife!

Men do you notice that when you have money problems that you are either off sex completely or addicted to it? If it’s the former, ‘off sex’, that is probably because you are down, working all the time and stressing to ‘get money’ so the last thing you seem to be able to do is show up in a great way to romance a woman. If on the other hand you seem addicted to sex that is probably because you don’t feel good about yourself as a man (because you are not providing for yourself or a woman the kind of life you want to) and the only time you feel good is when you orgasm. The third alternative is that you try and please a woman by getting her to orgasm a lot giving you a feeling of being successful at something. None of these is good for women.

If you’re single and looking to be in a relationship notice how healthy women are not attracted to you. This is because they can tell that you are depressed about your situation and so will move away from you. Unhealthy women (either in debt too or have money and want to mother you or fix your problems) may be attracted to you but this is unlikely to lead to a great relationship because it is way out of balance. If you are in a relationship being down and either moody or detached or talking about your problems to your partner is a recipe for disconnection inside and outside of the bedroom.

So of course, as we said before, the solution is to get things sorted out. And you might ask, HOW? Most men in this situation say ‘Well, unless I get money in the bank how can I be in a good place and have a great relationship with a fantastic woman?

Here’s how… You need to access your core masculinity. You see, it's never about £’s (or €’s or $’s!) it’s about how you show up as a man. Firstly you might want to answer these questions:

• Are you able to see the light at the end of the tunnel and, if not, what would it look like?

• Have you had help from a man that has handled this part of his life?

• Are you living the best life you can in the circumstances or are you fed up and turning to addictions such as alcohol, smoking, food, drugs, television, gambling or sex?

• How are you managing your life? Do you have your financial situation clearly recorded and organised?

• How would you handle your situation if you focused on nothing else?

It’s a fact; it's not the size of your bank account that matters, you could still be in debt but in the process of getting everything handled, be showing up in a great way and be able to have a positive effect on a woman.

Now, women who are in debt and struggling financially are most likely to be off sex and/or not having much success in intimate relationships. If you are, however, reacting to money issues by looking to sex to make you feel better it is probably because you are acting more like a man in all areas of life. Women who are depressed, stressed or worried all the time repel men!

A single woman needs to do nothing else but find a way to be good with her situation whatever it is. A woman’s core feminine needs are for good relationships so to focus negatively on money will only serve to give you a life that will not meet your core needs. Put simply, a happy woman is the most attractive thing to a man and it doesn’t matter how well she is handling her finances as long as she is happy. Can you see the difference between men and women? Men need to be ‘handling things’ women need to be ‘accepting things’.

If you are a woman in a relationship it is also going to be about your reaction to your financial situation. If you have your own money the solution is definitely to be good with where you are but how would it be that the solution is to give your partner ‘the problem’? I can almost hear the gasps of ‘oh my god, I couldn’t!’ Yes even if he is also not in a good place financially himself, he is a man and men respond to solving problems. If you have joint money issues you must leave him to sort it all out! If you nag, he feels worse, if you try and help him, he feels worse, if you find a solution, he feels terrible! Get the message?

Now to be honest there are men out there who would go to pieces if either their girlfriend gave them a financial problem to solve or their partner stopped taking responsibility for the money but that should not stop you asking for help or letting go of the problem. You may be pleasantly surprised and if not you may want to ask the question: Is this relationship meeting my needs?

So girls, all this will definitely affect your lovelife. Letting go, asking for help, stopping worrying, being happy etc will all have a magical affect on who you attract if you’re single, and how connected you are if you’re attached.

So man or woman, single or attached, if you are having money problems you need to look seriously at the solutions offered in this Blog and on our Money & Sex Videos on TNTV.

And we are seriously suggesting our Home Study Course which will help you handle all areas of your life which in turn will affect your relationships and your bank account of course!

So, any questions for Tony or I, email us on tnv@tonyandnickivee.com

Love, Nicki Vee x

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