Relationship Advice : Sex & Money Challenges

So here's the thing - Money problems = Sex problems

And it doesn't matter how much you've got!

You might be In Debt and on the brink of financial bankruptcy, getting just about enough to get by or you may have loads of money - whatever your situation it could seriously be affecting your lovelife!

Men who have little or no money are often either completely off sex because they are so worried about their situation or they are addicted to sex to get a quick, if not fulfilling high, that makes them feel good, just for a second or two. A healthy woman is never going to be attracted to a man who has not got his 'act together' financially but unhealthy women (who have their lives sorted) are often looking for a man to 'look after' so that they can mother or fix his problems. So of course the solution is to get things sorted out. Using masculine energy, certainty about yourself and finding practical solutions that work will get you quickly into the kind of energy that will attract abundance and a healthy woman. It’s a fact, it's not the size of your bank account that matters, you could still be in debt but getting everything handled, and be very attractive to Mrs. Right.

Women who are in debt and struggling financially usually get themselves into a low energy state of despair. Some may show a 'brave face' but your negativity about your lot is bound to put a good man off you. Men will still have sex with you but not the right man (or a man in good energy) and you may just be feeding off the crumbs of a relationship or still seeing an old flame. Men can feel your neediness and so are not attracted to it. The solution for you is to be completely ok with whatever your present situation is. You see he may come along and sweep you off your feet or help you out as long as you don't seem to be needy of that. Your 'brave face' needs to be a 'happy face' too or your energy will turn him off.

Men or women who have just enough money to get by are normally hooked on security. This is probably going to show up in the bedroom as 'just having enough to get by' too! Why is that? Because the doubt, worry and anxiousness about losing the job, the business failing, the house not selling, the investment falling will keep a man’s mind on everything but romance. Sex often becomes boring because both of you are thinking about everything else, not each other. Most commonly women are worried about the kids, the mortgage payments, the car needing servicing... everything apart from her man and his physical needs. So a solution for both of you is togetherness time when you don't talk about how you are going to be safe financially long term.

Men who seem to 'have it all' are often too busy either making more money or holding onto what they've got to put quality time into their relationship. They often find it easy to get sex as either a single of attached man but it’s all too easy just like earning money. What he needs to learn about is LOVE. The kind of sexual highs he gets from sex or money will be nothing to what he could have if he learnt to really 'love'.

Women who have it all are like a magnet to men who haven't! She shows up as successful at everything she does but sleeps alone at night even if her bed is full! She is so 'in charge' of her life and can be 'in charge' of him too inside and outside of the bedroom that she actually repels healthy men. You see he wants at least to feel that he can make you happy by giving you something that you didn't get yourself. The solution is to learn about letting go, trust and true femininity. Letting a man lead you in any circumstance is a good first step. Trust him to do something for you that you would normally do yourself! The ultimate let go is to let him make all the decisions in bed too!

So yes money and sex are interdependent, a healthy approach to money will give you a healthy lovelife too.

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Nicki Vee